Saturday, April 11, 2015



 Since my accident,  I have been thinking a lot about living and life because I could have lost mine that afternoon.  I have thought about what has brought me to this point in my life and what means the most to me and one of them is friendship.
     Friends are such an important part of our lives.  We look up to our friends and respect them.  We want them to be happy.  We really like them.  We love interacting with them either in person or across the Web. 

We trust them.

We love to make them laugh, support their interests, offer guidance and listen when they need to vent.  We get excited with and for them.  We share new insights.  We love to let them know how important they are to us.  We do favors.
We troubleshoot as needed.

     We also, whether we realize it or not, expect them to do the same for us.  Sometimes they don’t.  Most of the time we simply let it go because we’re friends.  Sometimes we don’t.  I believe that it is because of fear and fear and love cannot coexist.  When we care deeply for someone, as friends do, somewhere deep inside we might be afraid of not really being important to them, or that they may take us for granted or…whatever!  We feel hurt in some way.  We might have a strong reaction to what we deem as an infraction of some kind.  Then some level of judgment can occur.  Words may be exchanged that make both friends feel bad…causing a possible stalemate.  Then we may suddenly realize that despite our upset, we still love them dearly and cherish their presence in our lives. 

     Wow!  Sounds kind of crazy, but we do it sometimes.  Friends are human!  Disappointments or frustration are bound to happen on either side now and then.  Priorities may become confused. Personal circumstances may leave one more vulnerable in areas of the heart.

     When friends can survive these times, forgive and forget occasional blips and choose to have compassion for each other’s humanness, their bond strengthens and a more loving acceptance of each other can happen.  

 I have also been thinking about how each of us learn more than we imagine possible in relationships.  Friends teach us to take a close look at ourselves and strive to be our best.
     Even having only one friend in our lives is a gift.  It is a gift that many are never given.  If you were given any, love them like you want to be loved and forgive them for their shortcomings.  They're worth it and so are you.

Fun friend flip-flops...LOL

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